Meet the Robinsons
Our hope is to adopt a sibling set or individual child. Ideally, we would like our oldest child to be no older than 14-years-old at this time in light of our desire to maintain birth order in our home. We have no preference for ethnicity, gender, or gender expression. We live within a diverse area, have a culturally varied group of friends, and are in fact an interracial couple ourselves with significant experience with the LGBTQ+ community. Should we adopt a child of a different race from us, we would invest time and energy making sure we learned as much about their individual culture as possible in order to welcome and embrace their diversity. This would include reading literature on how to care for children of different races and/or cultures, attending training, joining support groups, deferring to our child's counselor's recommendation(s), and talking to parents in similar situations.
We are supportive of anything that is important to our child(ren), inclusive of any prior connections/relationships provided that they are both healthy and beneficial. While we are open to children with special needs, we do not feel that we could accommodate a medically fragile child. We are not open to having child(ren) who display sexualized and/or violent behavior. Our hope is to have a child who enjoys animals since we have several who are very active members of our household.
We are a jovial family of four located in Corvallis, OR including Sam (25), Alicia (29), and Aine (16). Sam and Aine are of caucasian descent and Alicia is Mexican-Japanese. We reside on a 1.19-acre property just between the cities of Corvallis and Albany with our chickens, ducks, 3 dogs, and 2 indoor cats. We have one child, Sam's biological sister Aine, for who we have guardianship. She has lived with us for 1.5 years.
Sam works full-time for Corvallis Pain Management as a Practice Manager and has a flexible work schedule. There are weeks where he works remotely some of the time in order to get Aine to appointments or just to be close to home for the day/week. Around once to twice yearly he has a conference in another state (typically Florida, California, Nevada, Louisiana, Texas, Washington, Colorado, or Hawaii) at which point the whole family goes with him so they can have a vacation while he studies/works during the day and has fun with the family in the evening. Sam is working toward the educational goal of a Doctoral degree in Healthcare Administration (DHA). In childhood, he played a variety of sports: soccer, tennis, basketball, ballet, Irish dance, volleyball, and springboard diving. Sam enjoys reading, DIY projects around the house, cooking family breakfasts, spending time with family, and going to the beach. His all-time favorite thing at the beach is getting Cujo to run through the water.
Alicia works full-time for Red Canoe Credit Union as a Banker but plans on either going part-time or suspending working fully to make the transition easier. Alicia loves art, local travel, cooking/baking, board/card games, children, and animals. She enjoys trying new food whether it's cooking at home or going out to a new restaurant. Alicia loves the beach, especially exploring caves and walking the coast searching for shells and sand dollars. She also enjoys relaxing at home with a funny show and spending time with our cats and dog on our large, comfy couch.
Aine goes to the local high school where she is a sophomore. Aine spends a lot of her time drawing, writing, making pottery, helping Sam with DIY projects, playing with the animals, and listening to music in her room. Over the last year, Aine helped to make floating shelves, lay flooring in the living room, install a new dishwasher, replace a toilet, build a new duck and chicken coop, and build a fence! Her current project is turning a shed on the property into her art studio for pottery. Aine's favorite place in the world is the beach when it's raining.
Home and Community
We live in the State of Oregon. Our home is a single-family, one-story home in Corvallis on 1.19 acres. We are roughly 8 minutes from downtown Albany and 8 minutes from downtown Corvallis. Our next-door neighbors have 2 teenage daughters that Aine spends time with and a trampoline they like to jump on. On the lower section of our property, we have a swing set with a slide and a fort. We plan on putting a play kitchen in the lower portion of the playset and building a stand-alone climbing wall. There is a pond that we walk Cujo to about 15 minutes away from our house so he can swim and fetch balls.
In Corvallis and Albany, there are many parks and activities for kids including the riverfront in downtown Corvallis near plenty of fun shops and eateries. The same goes for Downtown Albany, known for its carousel and also offering a variety of fun shops, activities, and places to eat.
Our home is made up of 3 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms, an open dining area, and a kitchen with an island where we enjoy family meals and game nights. We have a large, open living room with large windows facing the tops of large trees from our lower half of the property. We also have a sliding glass door that opens up to a covered patio with a grill and seating for lounging and eating outside in comfort, also ideal for hosting fun barbecues with families and friends!
We have one dog: Cujo who is a six-year-old German Shepherd-Black Lab mix. He loves kids and is very gentle despite his large stature. His favorite thing to do is tricks for treats. When he is tired of children "bugging him" he will sigh, get up, and walk away. His name is a misnomer and was given to him by prior owners, we typically just call him "Jo" or "Mr. Man". We also have 2 indoor-only cats: Luna and Gracie who like to follow our young niece and nephews around begging for pats whenever they visit. In fact, one of Luna's favorite pastimes is having our 10-year-old nephew, Joaquin, sit by the window with her in the morning "on bird watch." Outdoors, we have 8 chickens and 5 ducks for eggs. Aine is responsible for watering the outdoor animals, feeding them, collecting eggs, letting them out in the morning, and locking them in at night.
When Sam was a child, his parents went through a tumultuous divorce that resulted in him being left alone to care for his newborn sister, Aine, and his one-year-old brother, Aedan, quite frequently alone. That is where his parenting experience began. When he turned 18 and moved out of his mother's house, he began to have his siblings stay with him every summer and most school breaks while working full-time and going to school full-time but prior to our marriage. He is familiar with putting in the hard work that is required to positively show up in every way possible for children prior to even having a supportive partner.
Alicia grew up in California surrounded by relatives including many younger cousins. Alicia often found herself to be the one watching the younger kids and keeping them entertained with games and activities during family gatherings. This role carried on into her relationship with her older brother and his children, living with them as infants, offering to babysit, and including them in fun outings to zoos and local child-friendly activities.
As adults, we welcomed Aine into our home in June of 2019 as her full-time parents/guardians. The experience of raising Aine has been one of the most challenging and rewarding things both of us have ever done. We cannot even begin to explain the depth of awe in watching Aine overcome obstacles and grow into the person she was meant to be and the breadth of unconditional love and respect that we feel for her.
We have both been certified in Nonviolent Trauma-Informed parenting and have an extensive list of materials that we have read and classes we have taken in parenting, adverse childhood events (ACEs), the LGBTQ+ community, social justice, and mental health disorders. As the Practice Manager of an Interventional Pain Management clinic with experience in nursing in PCU/ICU, Sam has a fairly extensive background in mental/medical conditions.
We share several groups of friends who offer support and help whenever needed. Our close relationships mean a great deal to us and, especially since bringing Aine home, we've seen just how much love and support we have from our friends when we need help. Be it, someone, to watch over our house and animals when away for a trip, helping to fix broken appliances, finishing a play structure when Sam gets injured, driving/picking up Aine for one of us, or just being a listening ear in a time of struggle or need our friends have always risen to the occasion.
The majority of our extended family reside in/around Vacaville, CA. It is standard to take at least a 1-week long trip into California to visit extended family annually.
There are multiple schools in our area that offer great diversity in students and staff. They offer education specialists that help facilitate IEPs and have been profoundly accepting of LGBTQ+ children. We have seen how big of an impact personalized education and smaller classroom sizes can make and want our child(ren) to have as many resources as we can provide. We are fortunate that with Sam's profession as a Clinic Administrator and his father working locally as a primary care physician, that we have simplified access to many wonderful pediatricians, child psychologists, PT/OT providers, speech therapists, and other medical specialists.
Motivation to Adopt
We have a mutual understanding that it may be more difficult for us to achieve a pregnancy; however, we opted at the inception of our relationship for adoption. Not because of infertility, because we don't really know that we are infertile, but because we have always agreed that adoption is what feels like what's right to grow our family.
We understand what struggles and obstacles may lie ahead on our journey to adopt. We have firsthand experience with Sam's teenage sister Aine living in our home: helping a child who is recovering from trauma to adjust, navigating through emotions, and adjusting to home with rules, stability, boundaries, love, and respect. We know how hard and emotionally trying some days can be, but when you see the effects of your efforts, gratitude, the new developments of joy, personality, trust, and empathy being developed by a child in your home it is the most rewarding and fulfilling experience. Every child deserves to feel loved, wanted, appreciated, respected, and like they have someone in their life they can trust and turn to for guidance. To know they have a place to call home, a bed to sleep in, a spot at the table, a good meal, and an ear to listen when they need it. We know just how big a difference it can make when a child has stability and knows what to expect from their parents and that there will always be love and support at home. Love in our home is unconditional, it is not exclusively a verb - it is a noun. We know our children are out there. We're just anxiously waiting for them to come home.