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Ryan and Tara
Oregon

Basic Info

Ryan

Age: 46
Sex: Male
Race/Ethnicity: Caucasian, Native American
Religion: Christian

Tara

Age: 45
Sex: Female
Race/Ethnicity: Caucasian
Religion: Christian

Child Preferences

Age: 4 to 12 years old
Sex: Either
Max Number of Children: 2
Race/Ethnicity: Caucasian, African American, Asian, Native American, Hispanic, Pacific Islander, Mixed, Bi-Racial, Unknown

Special Needs the Family is Open To: Mild Physical/Medical Disability (Open to Discussion), Animal Allergies, Asthma, Drug Allergies, Environmental Allergies, Food Allergies, Defiant, Difficulty in Attaching, Difficulty Making Friends, Encopresis, Lying, Manipulative, Poor Social Skills, Stealing, Wets the Bed, Prenatal Drug Exposure, Occupational Therapy, Physical Therapy, Physically Disabled-Mild, Hearing Impaired, Speech Delays - Mild, Vision Impaired, Anorexia/Bulimia, Hoarding, Overeating, Pica, Academically behind due to poor attendance, Cognitive Delay - Mild, Expulsion(s), Has Behavior Problems in School, Mild Learning Disabilities, Speech or Language Impairment, Suspension(s), One/Both Parents Diagnosed with Depression, One/Both Parents Diagnosed with Bipolar, One/Both Parents Have Had a Mental Diagnosis, Multiple Placements, ADHD, Arthritis, Cancer, Diabetes, Requires Counseling/Therapy, Willing to Maintain Contact via Mail with Bio Family, Willing to Maintain Contact with Past Foster Parents, Willing to Maintain Contact with Bio Grandparents & Other Relatives, Willing to Maintain Contact with Bio Siblings

Environment

State: Oregon
Neighborhood: Country/Rural
Residency:
Years Together: 22
Children in the Home: 5
Pet(s): Dog(s), cat(s), farm animal(s), reptile(s), small animal/rodent(s), fish

Work

Ryan

Occupation: IT

Tara

Occupation:

Adoption Agency

Agency: A Family For Every Child
Worker: Dina Badolato
Worker: dina@afamilyforeverychild.org
City: Eugene
State: Oregon
Zip: 97402

Family Description

We are an outdoorsy, fun-loving, active family who enjoy traveling and spending quality time with each other. We are actively involved in our school, church and friend communities, and our faith plays a central role in our family dynamics and activities. We have been married 22 years and have 5 biological girls between the ages of 10 and 16 years old. We are actively looking to support and adopt one to two (sibling) female children.

Preference Description

We are open to adopting one female or two siblings between the ages of 4 to 12 years old with mild to moderate behavioral, emotional, or physical needs.

The Comingdeer Family Profile

We are looking for one female or two siblings, between four and twelve years of age, of any race or ethnicity, with mild to moderate physical, behavioral, and emotional needs.

Introduction

We are an outdoorsy, fun-loving family who enjoys traveling and spending time with each other. We live an active lifestyle that keeps us on the go. We are involved in our Church community, and our Christian faith plays a central role in our family dynamics and activities. On the weekends, we are often found supporting one of our kids at a local basketball, soccer, lacrosse or swimming competition.

Home and Community

Bend, Oregon, located in central Oregon, has a population of almost 100,000 people. Bend is known for its recreational activities, including mountain biking, fishing, hiking, camping, rock climbing, white-water rafting, skiing, paragliding, and golf. Our children attend Trinity Lutheran private school. Our family has been active in the school since the oldest child was in preschool and feels comfortable that the administrators and teachers support our families needs and culture. We live on twenty acres of land and are not physically close to our neighbors. Our property includes a grassy area to play, a large high desert landscape to explore and a fenced off area for our chickens. There is a large, paved driveway for riding bikes, playing ball, or other outdoor activities. We have a 4800 sqft house with 5 bedrooms plus a large shop that contains a playroom.

Parenting Experience

We like to run an organized and structured household. We want our children to know what to expect and to trust that we will follow through when we say that we will do something. We feel that a child coming into our home from foster care will also benefit from structure and routine. However, we also believe that all of our children are unique and require different communication and disciple techniques. We support their individual interests, activities and social groups. We enjoy volunteering in multiple classrooms, Tara has been a teachers aid and Ryan assisting with classroom technology needs.

Support

We have a strong local support network with immediate family, a good church community, school community and close friends. Many of our family, friends and community groups are activity involved in the adoption and foster system and are available to support us in this journey.

Motivation to Adopt

We became interested in adoption after a couple in our church community was arrested for drug-related offenses and the couples children entered the foster care system. We empathized with the four boys as they were split into multiple homes and experienced numerous placements. While we were not able to help those children, we decided that we would pursue becoming foster certified and reached out to our local DHS office. When the pandemic escalated in 2020, we put our foster certification on hold. This time allowed us to reflect on the information we learned in the foster certification training classes. At that time, we decided that we wanted to provide a permanent home for children in foster care through adoption.

We understand that the child or children we are adopting might have experienced significant trauma. We know that adoption is a lifelong developmental process in which the child will need continued support and empathy throughout their life. We maintain a culture of open discussion in our home. We will be taking the same approach with new adoption-related topics. Our goal is to normalize the adopted child's experience, while being empathetic to their needs, and give them the words and framework to contextualize their experience. We understand that the adopted children will likely struggle to bond and attach directly after placement. We intend to focus on ensuring the child feels safe by meeting the children's expressed and inherent needs consistently. We understand the importance of staying patient and engaged.